Candiace Dillard slammed Allison Holker’s determination to publicly talk about her late husband Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss’s struggles with dependancy.
The Actual Housewives of Potomac alum, 38, took to X on Tuesday writing, ‘I am not even gonna say it. However this white lady is doing all the things BUT defending her Black kids and her Black husband’s legacy.’
Dillard added, ‘She might’ve stored this in her therapist’s workplace. SMH.’
Accompanying the publish was a hyperlink to Holker’s, 36, interview with Individuals, the place she mentioned how Boss — who died by suicide at age 40 in December 2022 — hid a ‘cornucopia’ of medication from her.
After a commentator argued that Holker’s intent may need been ‘to make folks conscious of psychological sickness/drug abuse, acknowledge the indicators and get rid of the stigma’ Dillard wrote again that Holker might have chosen a distinct publication.
‘She might’ve simply simply taken this story to Essence or Ebony the place care would have been taken to share such a tragically intimate story of a Black man’s plight in opposition to himself,’ she wrote.
Candiace Dillard, 38, slammed Allison Holker’s, 36, determination to publicly talk about her late husband Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss’s struggles with dependancy; Dillard seen in 2024
In a brand new interview with Individuals Holker mentioned how Boss — who died by suicide at age 40 in December 2022 — hid a ‘cornucopia’ of medication from her; the pair seen in 2022
In her new interview, Holker revealed that she discovered medication — together with mushrooms, capsules and ‘different substances I needed to lookup on my telephone’ — stashed away in her husband’s shoeboxes, weeks after his loss of life.
‘I used to be with one in every of my actually expensive mates, and we had been cleansing out the closet and choosing out an outfit for him for the funeral,’ she shared.
‘It was a very triggering second for me as a result of there have been loads of issues I found in our closet that I didn’t know existed. It was very alarming to me to be taught that there was a lot taking place that I had no clue [about],’ she added.
The skilled dancer added that although it was a ‘actually scary second’ in her life, it additionally helped her ‘course of that he was going via a lot and he was hiding a lot’ and that ‘there should have been loads of disgrace in that.’
Holker believed that the pair had ‘very sincere’ communication, stating she knew that the Ellen DeGeneres Present DJ smoked marijuana after their three youngsters — Weslie, 16 (Holker’s daughter from a earlier relationship, whom Boss adopted) Maddox, 8, and Zaia, 4 — went to mattress.
‘That was his alone time. It was his time to recharge, and that was okay,’ she shared.
Holker additional revealed that when she learn his journals to attempt to discover some closure, she discovered that Boss alluded to being sexually abused by a male determine throughout his childhood in numerous his entries.
‘He was wrestling with quite a bit inside himself, and he was attempting to self-medicate and deal with all these emotions as a result of he did not wish to put it on anybody as a result of he cherished everybody a lot.’
Dillard took to X on Tuesday writing, ‘I am not even gonna say it. However this white lady is doing all the things BUT defending her Black kids and her Black husband’s legacy’
After a commentator argued that Holker’s intent may need been ‘to get rid of the stigma’ of psychological sickness and drug abuse, Dillard wrote that she might have chosen a distinct publication
In her new interview, Holker revealed that she discovered medication — together with mushrooms, capsules and ‘different substances I needed to lookup on my telephone’ — stashed away in her husband’s shoeboxes, weeks after his loss of life
She added that although it was a ‘actually scary second’ in her life, it additionally helped her ‘course of that he was going via a lot and he was hiding a lot’ and that ‘there should have been loads of disgrace in that’
Holker — who not too long ago went Instagram official with new boyfriend Adam Edmunds — added that her late husband ‘didn’t need different folks to tackle his ache.’
Holker, whose upcoming memoir ‘This Far: My Story of Love, Loss, and Embracing the Mild’ will delve deeper into her experiences, acknowledged that she was sharing Boss’ struggles in order that ‘folks coping with the identical factor will assist themselves out of the shadows and [know] you’re going to be OK.’
Elsewhere within the interview she shared the final phrases Boss mentioned to their eldest daughter Weslie.
Holker revealed that the morning earlier than Boss went lacking, he dropped Weslie off in school, and instructed her, ‘I want I may very well be your Superman.’
The mom-of-three shared, ‘Having somebody say final phrases to you that you simply didn’t actually course of on the time as being something incorrect … that’s actually exhausting, particularly as a teen,’ including, ‘She handles it with much more grace than she ought to need to.’
Holker additionally revealed she and her youngsters started intense remedy in 2023.
‘We took the steps to actually assist [Weslie] and talk along with her and make her really feel seen and heard.’
Weslie was the final member of the family to see Boss alive, with Holker sharing, ‘I feel she additionally sees these phrases as one thing lovely, and likewise ugly. It’s a battle that she’s going to at all times have with herself, however I do know she will be able to see it from each side.’
Boss’ widow mentioned that remedy helps her cope with her grief.
Elsewhere within the interview she shared the final phrases Boss mentioned to their eldest daughter Weslie, 16 (Holker’s daughter from a earlier relationship, whom Boss adopted); the pair additionally share Maddox, 8, and Zaia, 4; Boss pictured with all three youngsters
Holker revealed that the morning earlier than Boss went lacking, he dropped Weslie off in school, and instructed her, ‘I want I may very well be your Superman’
Holker’s memoir, This Far: My Story of Love, Loss, and Embracing the Mild, will probably be obtainable February 4
‘I am not going to have closure. My youngsters aren’t going to have closure. That’s nonetheless one thing I’m nonetheless attempting to know myself, which is why remedy is fantastic.’
Greatest often called the DJ on The Ellen DeGeneres Present, Boss was discovered useless of a self-inflicted gunshot wound in a Los Angeles motel on the age of 40 in 2022.
In December 2022, he checked into to the Oak Tree Inn within the Los Angeles suburb of Encino – quarter-hour’ stroll from his home – and shot himself.
His physique was found the morning after he arrived on the motel by a horrified maid who stumbled on him in a pool of blood within the bathtub.
Simply weeks earlier than his loss of life, Boss and Holker had gone on The Jennifer Hudson Present and shared that they hoped to have one other child.
Holker and Boss met on the set of So You Assume You Can Dance in 2010 and wed in 2013, one 12 months earlier than he landed his job because the beloved DJ on The Ellen DeGeneres Present.
Holker has since moved on along with her new boyfriend Adam, the CEO of the software program firm-focused property administration firm Entrata.
They made their romance crimson carpet official by posing collectively on the Alice + Olivia Spring 2025 present throughout New York Vogue Week.
Final December, Holker uploaded a touching Instagram publish about mourning as she approached two milestones – what would have been her and Boss’ tenth marriage ceremony anniversary, and three days after that, his first loss of life anniversary.
‘Grief by no means ends .. however each season of problem has an expiration date. Hold believing and hold dancing via,’ she wrote.
Holker has since moved on along with her new boyfriend Adam Edmunds, the CEO of the software program firm-focused property administration firm Entrata; the 2 seen in September
The next month she revealed that she was open to the opportunity of courting once more, in an episode of Nick Viall’s podcast The Viall Information.
‘It was very exhausting for me to be taught to love myself once more and to be taught to like myself once more…it is a very advanced state of affairs I discovered myself in,’ she mentioned.
‘It took me a very long time to just accept all of these issues and people complexities of all the things. However on the finish of the day, I really like life.’
When the topic of a brand new man got here up, she mentioned: ‘Would I draw back from it? No. Am I in search of it? I do not know…however I am positively not shying away from it.’
Holker’s memoir, This Far: My Story of Love, Loss, and Embracing the Mild, will probably be obtainable February 4.
