Dr Joe Abah, OON, has advised men to exercise restraint when they fall out with women, particularly those who have borne their children.
His comments came amid the ongoing marital tension between actress Regina Daniels and her husband, Senator Ned Nwoko.
Abah Preaches Dignity and Self-Control
In a post on X (formerly Twitter), Dr Abah emphasised the importance of protecting a woman’s dignity during relationship breakdowns.
He wrote: “When you fall out with a woman that has had children for you, you must do everything possible not to destroy her, no matter how angry you are.
You must restrain yourself for the sake of your children, and for your own dignity as a man and a father. I am Ezemmuo. I know things.”
Reactions from Social Media Users
His post attracted numerous reactions from netizens who expressed mixed opinions.
Edozie John wrote: “It is also up to the man to show leadership, even when you believe it’s not your fault. The children, and even your hated spouse, will be grateful for the sacrifice in the future.”
Another user, Imago Dei, added: “Restraint is such an important virtue. Though sometimes you want to utterly destroy people who wrong you.”
Mazi Uche commented: “It is good to stay calm when you are angry, but being a good father is more than just not hurting her. You have to support your kids, help raise them, and act with love.”
Halal Finance, however, noted: “True, doc. But it doesn’t always play out that neatly. Some women go for the man’s peace, reputation, even his relationship with his kids.”
Kalu Samuel Uko said: “I align my thoughts with you, Ezemmuo. Ned is an elder statesman and highly regarded in Nigeria. The least I expected from him was to nip his marital problems in the bud and not wash his dirty linen in public.”