I attended a marriage ceremony not too long ago.
My first remark was the lively presence of reverend sisters and the numerous Catholic church actions on the reception corridor however all that started to make sense to me when a good friend who was with me defined that the bride is a church-girl.
After which, she added, ‘’It’s solely her kind that may say sure to him.
Do you suppose younger women today will look his approach, he doesn’t also have a automotive, but.”
“However they’ll readily say sure to a 70-year-old man,’ I responded. Gross impatience with processes, occasions and seasons would be the doom of this technology.
The younger man is simply ‘beginning life’ however he has a shiny path forward of him. He’s a authorized skilled. Many married males who’re doing properly at the moment would readily let you know that a number of the ladies disturbing them now are ex-girlfriends who’re supposedly married. Ladies deserted them for rich males however at the moment, the story is totally different.
Some years in the past, I met a younger woman who was a neighbour to a good friend. A really lovely and pleasant woman. Then, a good friend was on the lookout for a spouse however I didn’t need to elevate the difficulty along with her straight.
So, I requested her the qualities she wished in any man that she may take into account for marriage.
In her phrases, “he have to be dwelling in Lagos- Island and it should not be past Lekki Part One. He has to have a lister-generator in the home, a superb automotive and a driver.’’
After I requested if she was OK with a suitor who relies in an African nation, she frowned.
It was pointless to tell her that the man labored for a multinational firm in Angola. I wouldn’t want that mindset on my son. I knew a husband and spouse who lived in Abuja.
The spouse got here again from work late one night time and the husband demanded to know the place she was coming from. She questioned his audacity in a home that he was not funding. He hit her.
She bumped into the room, locked the door and in lower than an hour, a navy automobile pulled up in entrance of the home and troopers appeared at their doorstep to whisk him away. That was how the wedding ended.
He met a banker who lived in a snug home, drove an SUV and he married her.
“At the very least, she’s not a legal responsibility,” he should have thought. He didn’t analyse how a younger woman with lower than 5 years of labor expertise (and no prosperous background) may personal all that.
Individuals who could make a superb partner abound however lots of these trying to find a life associate aren’t wanting the place they need to look. And this condescending disposition in the direction of modesty and little beginnings cuts throughout.
So, it’s no shock that individuals will hold ending up in marriages with their errors. A good friend who relies within the US met a woman on social media.
Within the ebook of some Nigerian women, any “overseas’’ that’s not the USA of America, United Kingdom and Canada doesn’t depend.
In accordance with him, she mentioned the best issues and naturally she is gorgeous.
So, he satisfied himself that she was the one and he got here dwelling to carry out their marriage rites.
The understanding was that he would return and start the method of her becoming a member of him over there. He even managed to place her within the household approach earlier than returning to his base.
Nicely, it’s been six years since he hung the ‘Mrs’ tag on her neck and the discuss will not be that of her and their daughter becoming a member of him once more. The discuss, sadly is a dissolution of that marriage by which he has solely been dwelling twice to consummate.
He complained that she was dearer to keep up than any woman that he had ever had a relationship with.
He additionally mentioned that as quickly as she had their child, her financial calls for quadrupled a lot so {that a} good chunk of what he makes over there goes into her maintenance.
She claimed that her job pays her peanuts and she or he helps her individuals along with her private earnings. Proper now, his individuals have been given the ‘go-ahead’ to nullify the wedding.
The one set of males who’ve peace of their marriage are those that recognise and marry ladies who aren’t their fantasy. Our males overseas keep away from the hardworking women round them, who they will pretty predict their character, solely to hurry dwelling to marry these they barely know past Instagram and WhatsApp.
Added to that’s the mistake of maintaining her again dwelling, the place he solely visits a couple of times a 12 months.
