A man’s social media post has sparked widespread debate after sharing an unexpected encounter he had with a ladyhe met at Festac Mall in Lagos.
The story, posted on X, quickly gained attention, with many Nigerians weighing in on dating expectations, money, and modern social interactions.
Encounter at Festac Mall Sparks Debate
In the viral post, a man identified as Prince Adewale narrated how he approached a lady he found attractive at the shopping centre.
According to him, the interaction took an unexpected turn shortly after he paid her a compliment.
He wrote: “I met a lady at Festac Mall recently. She was very beautiful, so I approached her and complimented her. She smiled and said, ‘This one that you like me, you’ll pay for some of what I bought o.’”
Confused by the response, Adewale said he replied instantly in Yoruba.
“As how?” he asked, before responding, “Ṣogbadùn?”
The post triggered mixed reactions online, with many users sharing personal experiences and strong opinions about dating culture in Nigeria.
Social Media Users React
Reacting to the post, Omo Ogun criticised the woman’s response.
He wrote: “Nigerian ladies with beggy beggy attitude. Look at how she ruined the conversation between the two of you. Very horrible human being.”
Muanya took a more sarcastic view of the situation.
He said: “You have to pay tax to her for complimenting her
Next time u won’t admire another person.”
Paribus praised Adewale’s reaction and blamed what he described as opportunistic behaviour.
He wrote: “Good response. Everything about them is billing. They are walking opportunists.”
Simsbury shared a similar experience, suggesting the situation was common.
“It’s always the case you say hello boom the next conversation that pops up is her problems…” he wrote.
Broader Reflections on Dating Culture
Another user, Deelord, offered a longer reflection, comparing experiences in Nigeria and abroad.
He said: “often made to believe back home. Meeting a decent and responsible woman does not require money. In most cases, it has little or nothing to do with money at all—it is about your ability to communicate effectively, carry yourself with confidence, and conduct yourself.”
He added: “I wish more young men had the opportunity to visit developed countries. When you do, you quickly realize how Nigeria can negatively shape one’s thinking in many ways.”
Deelord also spoke about social standards outside Nigeria.
“One of the first things I noticed after traveling abroad is that women are not as difficult to approach as well as responsible man,” he said.
“Another realization I had is that personal hygiene and cleanliness are taken more seriously in many developed societies, and this standard is something we still need to improve on back home.”
Man_Friyo ended the discussion with humour, linking similar responses to hidden expectations.
He wrote: “
There was a time I stopped asking ladies ‘How are you doing’? The answer was always ‘I’m not fine’…and I’ll be asking what’s wrong with you.”
He added: “To be honest, not until a friend told me that response (‘I’m not fine’) is a prelude to billing.”